The Total Wife

I just want to say to all the males reading this blog, PLEASE don’t come off this blog post, this pertains to you too😊. Now I know what you’re thinking but before you judge, read on lol. When you think of the word wife, what comes to mind? Take a moment and think about it. I’ll tell you what I think. I think of a woman who has got it all together. Scheduled days, good at planning ahead, knows her way around the house, has an idea where exactly everything goes, someone who cleans, whose loving and so on.

But about 2 months ago, God changed my perspective just a little bit. I was walking while on my break and He asked me what a wife was. I gave him those same characteristics I listed above. In a way I was right, but I missed out on a lot. He brought me to Proverbs 31 verses 10 – 31 which talks about the virtuous woman (wife). He showed me all of her business traits, critical thinking skills, and her strategic planning for her family. But this is what He said that blew my mind: You have to be my wife before you can ever be the “total wife.” Meaning that our relationship to God is that of a husband and wife.

So for the men that are still reading guess what? You have to learn to be a wife to God. Doesn’t that sound weird? I have to admit, I laughed a little bit at that one. In order for you to fully appreciate your wife (or wife to be), you must be one to God. The bible shows  us in many ways that we are the “bride of Christ.” That means more than just being espoused to him and dressing up as a bride. It also means house keeping, being healthy and making sure your family is healthy, it means submission, love and much more. I’ll break it down in spiritual references

A wife is generally the keeper of the home. I’m in no way being derogatory when I say this, but I’ve always heard the term “the husband provides the house, but the wife provides the home.” There is something special about the delicate touch of a wife on her home. Roles can alternate during this time we are living in, but traditionally, the wife will clean up. As a wife to God, (man or woman), we have to know how to clean up our spiritual homes. What is in your house (spiritual house) that you need to get rid of? Our body is the temple of God. Meaning he’s the “man of the house.” While we are keepers of our physical home, we have to be keepers of our spiritual home as well (both male and female).

Know when it’s time to de-clutter. Is there too much junk in the closet of your heart? Declutter! What about under your bed? Declutter. Does the house smell funny? Take out the garbage. Wash the dishes. Remember, it is God’s temple as well.

Know when it’s time to add, to touch up and to refresh. I am big on DIY interior designing. I love the feeling of freshness and a new look. Well sometimes in our spiritual body, we have been the same for years. Does the walls of your heart need a paint job? Time to add to yourself. Pick up a good study bible and treat yourself. Invest in christian books to help you grow in faith and in God. Make a prayer closet or space anywhere and pray there. Do some fasting and prayer with purpose.” Do something to “spruce up your marriage” as some of my friends would say.

Know what to feed your “body.” As a wife, you have to think about what is healthy for yourself, and your family. You can’t constantly be feeding on junk. What do you feed your spiritual man? A little social media is good here and there, watching a netflix movie and getting comfy in bed is nice, but what else? Try to read the word of God. Try to study what He wants to say to you. Then you will be “healthy.” Spend time with Him.

Here is the big one: know how to submit. Anyone (both male and female) can find it hard to submit at times. Submitting to yourself, submitting to parents and to each other. The bible says that the wife should submit herself to her husband. Meaning, have respect for Him and honor what He says even if sometimes you don’t see the need fully yet. That’s how God tests the integrity of a wife; through submission. The big “S” word isn’t a joke. It’s hard to do sometimes. But it takes an intentional mind. It makes you stronger as a person. That’s very ironic isn’t it? When someone thinks of submission, they think of being weak, when actually, practicing to submit to the will of God makes you a very strong individual.

Guess what men? You have to submit too! Maybe not to your physical wife (being that God deemed you the leader [still honoring her]), but you should submit to God. Remember, you are also His “bride.” He will tell us to go places or do things that may sometimes be outside of our comfort zone, but that’s what marriage is about. Trust! Trust that your spouse won’t lead you through a darker road that he wouldn’t walk. Trust God, and know that it’s for your good.

I told you in my last blog that our God is a personal one. He loves His people and He loves His bride. We are the bride of Christ and we have to do that which is required of one.




  1. Love this girl. Very timely, especially for single individuals who are thinking about getting married soon. 🥰


    1. PeaceForThought says:

      Yea girl definitely! It was something for me to consider even now in marriage! I’m glad you liked it 😊❤️

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  2. Amoi says:

    Totally agree with this. Before I read the first thought thought that came to mind was “We are the Bride of CHRIST!”

    Lovely post!


    1. PeaceForThought says:

      Wow! I’m so glad this blessed you! God bless you 🙂


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